All beings are in reality Divine Beings having a human experience. Relationships are potentially one of the greatest opportunities on the planet for growth and learning.

Within each of us there is the baby, the child, the adolescent, the teenager, and the 'adult'. We carry all of our life stages with us, and our perception of the world is affected by our experiences. Much of what we experience as children growing up, we bring to the table in each of our relationships. Most people are completely unaware of this.

We are hugely affected by the relationships in our lives. I believe that by gently going back and examining patterns in our childhood, incredible healing can take place. Over and over again I hear people have amazing 'Aha' moments when they are able to see the parallel between their current issues in relationship and issues they have faced in the past.

Anything that disturbs our peace (anything that causes us to say "I'm upset because"...) is in reality a trigger to issues seeking resolution. We very often project these issues onto the people we love the most.

Drs Ron and Mary Hulnick, of the University of Santa Monica, define projection in this way:

"Projection is a defense mechanism designed precisely to protect us from having to take responsibility for our own disturbance. Blaming others or justifying our upsets based on 'becauses' is the way most of us were conditioned. It seems to make sense that others are to blame when we become upset. And it's not that we want to blame others for our disturbance, it's that we've learned this is the appropriate way to define reality. We literally see the 'cause' as something outside ourselves.

When we project, we are unconsciously dissipating our precious life's energy by extending it in judgment, righteousness, hurt, and/or anger associated with some past perceived wrong or wound. When projection is operating, we are stuck in the past and our energy is not available to us in the present."

When we learn to own and take responsibility for our upsets and issues, healing occurs. We become free of our limiting beliefs and views of reality. We learn to communicate with one another with honest, caring, self-expression and we have more courage to tell the 'microscopic truth'. Doors to deeper loving and intimacy begin to open, and we experience more joy, trust, harmony and balance than ever before.

Coaching can be distinguished from therapy in a number of ways. First, coaching is a profession that supports personal and professional growth and development based on individual-initiated change in pursuit of specific actionable outcomes. These outcomes are linked to personal or professional success. Coaching is forward moving and future focused. Therapy, on the other hand, deals with healing pain, dysfunction and conflict within an individual or a relationship between two or more individuals. The focus is often on resolving difficulties arising from the past which hamper an individual's emotional functioning in the present, improving overall psychological functioning, and dealing with present life and work circumstances in more emotionally healthy ways.

Therapy outcomes often include improved emotional/feeling states. While positive feelings/emotions may be a natural outcome of coaching, the primary focus is on creating actionable strategies for achieving specific goals in one's work or personal life. The emphasis in a coaching relationship is on action, accountability and follow through.